A lot of people ask me why I blog about my mental health. It is after all very personal and something that some suffers find very difficult. Letting so many people – the majority of whom are strangers – know about the most difficult parts of your life and giving them the ability to judge and ridicule you can seem extremely daunting. But to be honest I never really thought of it like that. After a lifetime of suffering, I just felt the urge to communicate. Strangers can’t say things that previous friends haven’t already said and even if they did choose to be mean and rude it doesn’t matter to me.
More an more people are beginning to speak up about their experiences. Charities are trying to end stigma and normalise mental health issues. Everyone has mental health whether it’s good or bad and it’s important to know how to look after it. By sharing my story and adding to the voices already discussing the topic I can do my bit to make like easier for those who experience mental health issues that come after me.
It’s more than that though. I used to feel ashamed. As though there was something fundamentally wrong with me and because of that people had a right to ignore me, treat me like an outcast and walk all over me. That hasn’t completely gone away – in my darker moments that still creeps back in but I got tired of feeling that way. I realised that I do have the right to be heard and get the help I need. That there wasn’t anything ‘bad’ about the way I was feeling and that the only way I could change that feeling was to talk about it to anyone that would listen. I’m sure some people are sick of hearing it or cynically believe that it’s used as an excuse – trust me it’s not. I’ve done a lot of pretty rubbish things whilst ill that I am genuinely ashamed of but I’m trying to get to a place where I can heal and blogging is a part of that.
Being able to reflect on things that have happened and then articulate them in a way that others can understand has really helped me manage my mental health. Luckily so far I haven’t had any nasty or rude comments (touch wood) and have met some incredibly inspiring and supportive people through Twitter chats and online mental health communities. It’s made me feel less alone, has helped me through some rough times and showed me that my story can sometimes help others and I’m not always just nattering away to myself. Part of my studying this year has actually been on occupational storytelling which is essentially what I’ve just described and has reinforced that I’m on the right track whether people read or not.
I’d love to know what motivates others to blog – feel free to share in the comments
So I missed the fact that my blog is a year old!
It was over the dead days in between Christmas, flicking through Twitter when I saw a post about someone’s blog birthday and I thought, ‘hey! surely I’ve been blogging over a year now?’ and low and behold I had.
I’m not going to harp on about my blog’s birthday, it feels a bit twee to me (sorry guys) but I do want to say how proud I am of myself. Fair enough I haven’t posted every week or everyday but it’s the first time I’ve actually stuck to something for a year! Usually I will start a diary, diet, routine or hobby and within a few months I’m bored and have moved on to the next thing.
For me blogging has given me an outlet for my thoughts, a way to share my interests and a chance to talk about my experiences without sounding like I am up on my soapbox ~ well at least I hope not anyway. I doubt I will ever stick to a rigid blogging routine or turn into a huge blogger but I don’t want to. I’m happy with my little hobby.
So really I just want to say a big thank you to everyone who reads possibly vintage (especially those that have stuck with it from last year) and I hope I can keep providing interesting insights into my life if nothing else.
At the end of May I had the opportunity to attend the Lighthouse Union’s blogger event in Cookridge, Leeds. Celebrating the opening of their new cafe/store, linked to Lighthouse Union school, we were in for an evening of prosecco, shopping and speed friending.
Since I have started blogging again, and blogging more regularly, I have also made some wonderful friends in the blogging community via the weekly Twitter chats. One topic that seems to come up quite a lot is the blogging routine. Do people plan their posts and schedule them, or do they write them on the day to go live in the afternoon?
When I first got back into blogging I was still only following the blogs I knew from before, and while I still enjoy reading them I wanted to add something new to the mix. As I got involved with some of the weekly Twitter chats (there are loads!) I started talking to other bloggers and discovering blogs I hadn’t read before.
Because I’m terribly nosy I love to hear about other people’s lives and experiences, so I tend to follow lifestyle blogs with a few beauty/product reviews thrown in. So here are a select few I’ve fallen in love with recently
The incredible Katie over at Katastrophique (check out her blog and Twitter feed, she’s one lovely lady) has nominated me for the Liebster award which recognises new bloggers and gets to know more about them…
OK guys, here it goes. Lately I’ve been feeling a bit insecure about my blog. I look at other bloggers and their following and wonder what I’m doing wrong. Is it just my personality people don’t like or am I making fundamental mistakes I just can’t see?
I don’t want to sound like a moaning Minnie or have a pity party – that’s not what this is about. Whilst I write my blog for myself and cover subjects close to my heart or that I enjoy writing about I would like to improve and grow my following.
So with that in mind it’s open season here at Possibly Vintage and I’m asking for your help. Please take a look around my blog and comment on this post letting me know what you think I’m doing wrong and what I could improve and how. Feel free to link to relevant articles or draw from your own experience.
Thanks in advance for all your help, I know it will be wonderful.
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